How to use Bye, Bye Tantrums
It’s important to familiarize your child with the cards before you use them. Your child needs to understand the actions that are represented on the cards.
Choose the category of card that applies to the situation you’re undertaking with your child. Explain that on every card a child is doing the right thing. Ask your child to help you choose cards that apply.
Rewarding your little one for correct behavior is essential for cementing the process. Younger children need immediate rewards. Older children like to bank points and cash in at the end of the week for a bigger prize.The magic word here is together. Every child treasures time with their parents, and you’re in this together to build a happy life!
Bribes vs. Rewards
We’re often asked about the difference between bribes and rewards. We like to compare it to the difference between a bribe and a paycheck in the adult world—one is an under-the-table cash payment in the heat of the moment, and the other is a mutually agreed-upon aboveboard transaction.
A few more differences:
- Bribes are reactive. Rewards are proactive.
- Bribes reinforce acting out. Rewards are earned with good behavior.
- Bribes are last-ditch efforts. Rewards are planned in advance.
- Bribes are offered in frustration. Rewards are thoughtfully considered.
- Bribes are an indication that the child is in control. Rewards are an indication that the parent is in control.
- Bribes are emotional. Rewards are rational.
- Bribes are given resentfully. Rewards are given proudly.